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Author: Blank_Wall Subject: need mans advice. he's an ex player
Butterfly
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posted on 07-31-2008 at 14:53 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
help

Please help!!!!
I've been married for about 6 months to a totally hot, muscular jock, that a couple years ago was a player....was one for 10 years! He don't admit it, he tells me he was not like that at all. But his friends tell me different.
I know he loves me dearly. he just got my name tattoed on his body. And everyone couldn't believe I could tame this guy.
But, anyhow....my question is,
We never do it anymore. I've always in the past had to initiate it. I am aggressive and a pervert. Secretlyof course....I've had my own crazy sex past he dont know about. He knows me as a good girl.
But he dont hardly want to have sex anymore. he tells me he is tired all the time. When that excuss runs dry, its a different excuss. He says he don't like it when I am aggressive and try to initiate it....so i've aloud him to do it....and it NEVER happens. We just wouldnt hardly do it.
I know he isnt cheating on me. I originally thought this, b/c he is so hot, and had that past (lots of girls, going to strip clubs alot, etc). I have checked his phone records, etc. Plus he's always with me. So it would be impossible for him to cheat....i think?
On my side....I am skinny, blonde, big boobs. I dont bitch, house it clean. So, I can't seem to figure it out?
I am sick of being rejected. Ive even begged! Its a 70-30 chance if I ask, i'll get it! The last time he went down on me was 6 mos ago even! We do it about once a week. 3-4 a week is perfect for me. But that no longer happens.
I have joked about watching porn, getting a toy...he says...yuk! But I know his ex gf had one, he once said. Why is it """yuk""" with me then?
I was told, he might be old fashioned in a way, and views his wife as wholesome, motherly, etc.....and that he dont grab my boobs or slap my butt anymore b/c he now has respect for me as his wife?
Bottom line. I know he used to love women, sex and strip clubs. But since we've been married. It's like sleeping with a friend. We just cuddle.?? He don't even like it when I talk dirty he says?
What's going on here????
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posted on 07-31-2008 at 15:18 Reply With Quote Report Post to Moderator
Get counseling.

'Please help!!!!
I've been married for about 6 months to a totally hot, muscular jock, that a couple years ago was a player....was one for 10 years! He don't admit it, he tells me he was not like that at all. But his friends tell me different.
I know he loves me dearly. he just got my name tattoed on his body. And everyone couldn't believe I could tame this guy.
But, anyhow....my question is,
We never do it anymore. I've always in the past had to initiate it. I am aggressive and a pervert. Secretlyof course....I've had my own crazy sex past he dont know about. He knows me as a good girl.
But he dont hardly want to have sex anymore. he tells me he is tired all the time. When that excuss runs dry, its a different excuss. He says he don't like it when I am aggressive and try to initiate it....so i've aloud him to do it....and it NEVER happens. We just wouldnt hardly do it.
I know he isnt cheating on me. I originally thought this, b/c he is so hot, and had that past (lots of girls, going to strip clubs alot, etc). I have checked his phone records, etc. Plus he's always with me. So it would be impossible for him to cheat....i think?
On my side....I am skinny, blonde, big boobs. I dont bitch, house it clean. So, I can't seem to figure it out?
I am sick of being rejected. Ive even begged! Its a 70-30 chance if I ask, i'll get it! The last time he went down on me was 6 mos ago even! We do it about once a week. 3-4 a week is perfect for me. But that no longer happens.
I have joked about watching porn, getting a toy...he says...yuk! But I know his ex gf had one, he once said. Why is it """yuk""" with me then?
I was told, he might be old fashioned in a way, and views his wife as wholesome, motherly, etc.....and that he dont grab my boobs or slap my butt anymore b/c he now has respect for me as his wife?
Bottom line. I know he used to love women, sex and strip clubs. But since we've been married. It's like sleeping with a friend. We just cuddle.?? He don't even like it when I talk dirty he says?
What's going on here????'

WHY are you posting this to a forum for virgins?

He's put off when his wife acts like a "slut". He's got it in his head
that his wife should act like a mother - the mother of his kids.

This is the sort of thing that happens when people engage in casual sex.
The act becomes associated with things that are not a part of a
well-functioning committed intimate relationship.


You could use relationship counseling.

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